The worst thing anyone has ever done to me is tell me I am nothing, that I am “the problem,” that I deserve pain, when they promised to love me. I experienced it from my mother for the first 18 years of my life, and then I experienced it from…

What if I approached myself from a place of knowing I am already doing the best I can be, and anything I cannot do right now doesn’t matter? What if I trusted myself to grow without setting a deadline for getting my shit together? I have been angry, fighting myself…

How the show’s queer undertones and ass-kicking helped me understand, and accept, myself. — Kim Possible has been one of the biggest parts of my life for the majority of it. In 2002, when it first aired, I was nearly eight years old and had an overactive imagination. I was a year older than most of the kids in my own class, because my…

“You deserve some just YOU time, you-loving-yourself-time, where you’re not responsible for everyone at all hours of the day. You’re telling me it makes sense to you to spend all of your 24 hours you have every day on other people and not a single hour on yourself? …

re·vise (/rəˈvīz/) verb: to re-examine and make alterations to “Everybody makes mistakes / Everybody has those days / Everybody knows what I’m talkin’ ‘bout / Everybody gets that way (that’s right)” Hannah Montana slash Miley Cyrus said it best. Nobody’s perfect, I’ve gotta work it, again and again ’til I get it right. I will not apologize for starting…

I n many ways, being isolated inside for a long time during this pandemic has reminded me of my childhood — mostly because a lifetime spent making friends on the internet has taught me you don’t need to be up close to be connected to the people you care about. …

“Have you ever listened to her music?” I asked my therapist on Monday. “Well, no, but…” “Okay, well! Then you can’t say anything else about Carly until you’ve listened. So I know you’re usually the one who gives me homework but your homework for this week is to listen to…

“No one is ever going to love you because you’re fucked up.” “Okay.” “Say it back.” “No.” “Fine, then I’ll say it again. No one is ever going to love you. Because you’re fucked up.” You will not be surprised to hear that I was bullied most of my life…

What coronavirus has taught me about my crisis response — When I saw my current therapist Erin for the first time in 2019, I walked into her office with absolutely all of my baggage. I showed up fresh from John F. Kennedy Airport off a day-late delayed flight back from my spring vacation to Nashville, suitcase and all, and said…